Letters to a Young Wife, from a Married Lady

Cheryl Grace Gems

Cultivate in your heart a love of home, and home duties. Strive to make that place as attractive as possible, and do everything in your power to render it an agreeable resting-place for your husband. The daily routine of home duties, when performed in the right spirit, diffuse a feeling of cheerfulness over one’s heart that can never be found in the applause of the world, or the gratification of any favorite desire.

Outdo One Another in Love

Cheryl Sin

As it is with many things in the Christian walk everyday events give me cause to stop and ponder the root of my intentions. The longer I walk with Christ the more clearly I see – thankfully – growth in committing less outward sins; yet, the inner man is sinful, though I may have a desire to be obedient to the Lord, the flesh is weak and I constantly falter. These things always make me return to the truth that the Lord is gracious in saving me, slow to anger, gentle with my weakness, loving and kind, forgiving transgressions and abounding in steadfast love.

Read This if Your Husband Can’t do Anything Right

Cheryl Sin

I see this horrible thing happening in Christian marriage groups, pages, and accounts where women gather round the theoretical water cooler cackling like hens, and do things like share really private information about their homes and their husbands, seeking the guidance of perfect strangers concerning matters that should cause them to be under pastoral care. Anything from advice about the marriage bed, to how their husbands are too pathetic to be capable of washing dishes to their standards.

Quid Pro Quo

Cheryl Family

One thing is certain, no one can see the sin of your husband more clearly than you. We each have pockets of sin, and in marriage killing sin frequently is a joint effort. Because our husbands are sinners, they do not always think, act, or respond in a way that we agree with. Likewise, because we are also sinners we can be tempted to respond in kind when we our husbands have done something that has left us feeling disappointed or dissatisfied. It is important that we do not live out our marriages using the principle of equivalent retaliation. This is when you love him or treat him well based off of your estimation of his performances. He does well and pleases you, you treat him well and please him. Tit for tat. He behaves poorly or doesn’t perform his duties properly, and you punish him by being withholding of your love and kindness.