The question that has been made so difficult in many a magazine. Many a secular magazine, telling women all sorts of foolishness on how to get a man. They tell them all manner of ungodly ways to get a man. But do these magazines tell them how to keep a man? Nah…that’s not the feminist mode of operation. The mantra …
The time that we currently live in is a time of much tumult, strife, and wickedness. We look outside the refuge that is our home and we can see pain, suffering, and destruction. We live in an age that tells us, as women, we are not being fulfilled unless we go outside our home to work. The world says that to neglect our husband and children …
As it is with many things in the Christian walk everyday events give me cause to stop and ponder the root of my intentions. The longer I walk with Christ the more clearly I see – thankfully – growth in committing less outward sins; yet, the inner man is sinful, though I may have a desire to be obedient to the Lord, the flesh is weak and I constantly falter. These things always make me return to the truth that the Lord is gracious in saving me, slow to anger, gentle with my weakness, loving and kind, forgiving transgressions and abounding in steadfast love.
I see this horrible thing happening in Christian marriage groups, pages, and accounts where women gather round the theoretical water cooler cackling like hens, and do things like share really private information about their homes and their husbands, seeking the guidance of perfect strangers concerning matters that should cause them to be under pastoral care. Anything from advice about the marriage bed, to how their husbands are too pathetic to be capable of washing dishes to their standards.
One thing is certain, no one can see the sin of your husband more clearly than you. We each have pockets of sin, and in marriage killing sin frequently is a joint effort. Because our husbands are sinners, they do not always think, act, or respond in a way that we agree with. Likewise, because we are also sinners we can be tempted to respond in kind when we our husbands have done something that has left us feeling disappointed or dissatisfied. It is important that we do not live out our marriages using the principle of equivalent retaliation. This is when you love him or treat him well based off of your estimation of his performances. He does well and pleases you, you treat him well and please him. Tit for tat. He behaves poorly or doesn’t perform his duties properly, and you punish him by being withholding of your love and kindness.
I love Elizabeth Elliot. A wonderful straightforward woman of God said -Contentment is a command. My mother used to say “Behave yourselves.” Contentment is really taking yourself by the scruff of the neck and behaving yourself when you are feeling discontent about anything. It’s being still.” Contentment is the heart of a woman content and at peace with her Savior, …