One thing is certain, no one can see the sin of your husband more clearly than you. We each have pockets of sin, and in marriage killing sin frequently is a joint effort. Because our husbands are sinners, they do not always think, act, or respond in a way that we agree with. Likewise, because we are also sinners we can be tempted to respond in kind when we our husbands have done something that has left us feeling disappointed or dissatisfied. It is important that we do not live out our marriages using the principle of equivalent retaliation. This is when you love him or treat him well based off of your estimation of his performances. He does well and pleases you, you treat him well and please him. Tit for tat. He behaves poorly or doesn’t perform his duties properly, and you punish him by being withholding of your love and kindness.