We are believers, this is not being Christlike. What did Christ say on the Cross to His abusers? He said, “Father forgive them, for they no not what they are doing”. He did not revile, but He loved all the more, those that hung Him on that Cross.
That was us. Our sins nailed our Savior to the Cross. When we attempt to revile back at our abuser, we are thinking we are above our Savior that willingly died on that Tree. How humbling is that? Was Christ a victim? I suppose by those that knew He was innocent, like Pilate would have considered Christ a victim. But Christ considered himself obedient to the Father in dying for His people. He is victorious as He rose from the dead, after purchasing His people with His blood. And sits victorious at the right hand of the Father. This is our example.