“I Can’t Afford to be A Keeper of the Home“

Shellie Uncategorized 2 Comments

As I write this, at least ten sermons come to mind.

4that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.~Titus 2:4-5


Things like “Lydia was a working woman” and “The proverbs 31 woman, was a real estate agent”.

Pretty sure all the sermons on this subject, teaching that it’s okay for wives and mothers to work outside the home, encompassed these two women, in some form.

Do you know what was always missing in these sermons? Historical Biblical context. Scripture doesn’t refer to Lydia as being married. That she was most likely under her father ,if she was not yet married.

And the Proverbs 31 woman was not a real estate agent, or what we certainly think of ,when we think of a real estate agent. The context is ripped apart when you go with this modern narrative. The proverbs e31 woman was not supernatural. But, she worked hard. In her home. She is a woman that runs her household well. She is not a woman that runs away from her household.

So when young women say to me “I can’t be a keeper of the home, we can’t afford it” I can’t help but know that they can’t afford to be a keeper of the home. It is God’s mandate to His design for families.

It is definitely disheartening to see the church, use scripture like it is a book of suggestions, rather than the Book, giving the very Words of Life.


We must return to valuing what God has said, and stop trying to fit Scripture to fit our ideas and opinions. We tread on very scary ground, when we rely on “well, that was then, and this is now” or “God really didn’t factor this in, we need to adjust for culture, now”.

Those are scary things to hear out of Christians’ mouths.

God has commanded that women should get married, have children and love their husbands, children and be keepers of their homes. To be quiet in the assembly, to ask our husband if we have questions. Where? When we get home. It is shameful for a woman to speak in church. I didn’t say that. God’s Word states it. I can’t soften that. Or adjust it to what I want it to mean, now. No. I do not have that privilege. No one does.

And if they want to learn something, let them ask their own husbands at home; for it is shameful for women to speak in church.~ 1Cor 14:35

But over and over, Pastors soothe the women who work, out of the home, in the congregation, with feminist talking points. Most of the visible Church has failed to be Christian in the teaching of women’s roles. There’s always a caveat. Always, exceptions that discount a clear reading of Scripture

Wives, you can’t afford to not be in your home. You are invaluable, your loving, soft, and godly influence is commanded of you, by God. He commands it because it is for your good and your family’s good. Your ministry to your family was woven into the creation of women. Mandated by God. To be your husband’s helpmeet, to nurture, love, manage and teach your children, in the ways of the Lord.

There is entirely too much at stake. We can not ignore what we have seen the last 60 years, of feminist teaching in the church, and what it has wrought. Destruction.

As Christian wives, we honor Christ in our obedience. It’s not legalistic, to take God at His Word and live as you believe Him. There is so much blessing in trusting God. In obeying Him. Run to your homes, not away from them.

Comments 2

  1. I know your heart is for women to be the best they can be as godly women.

    But life for a Christian woman in a 3rd world country is far different from our modern lifestyle in America. Women in India, Africa, etc. often toil for hours in the fields or markets and home may be little more than a 1 room shack with no water or electricity.

    Would it not be better and actually biblical to urge women to find God’s particular individual will for their life, be it SAHM, doctor, teacher, lawyer, inventor, scientist, preacher, missionary, whatever?

    Thanks for letting me share…God bless and keep you safe!

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      God’s Word does not change with culture or time. When scripture was written, women lived humble lives toiling from sun up to sun down. Daughters were under their fathers care and protection until they married. Their mothers, aunts, sisters in the Lord would be their examples.

      My teaching is from scripture. For Christian women.

      The Church has abandoned its responsibilities to the care for the widows and provide for women that have no fathers, until they marry.

      Yes so much is wrong with the world but God’s way is the solution out of obeyed. Getting away from God’s order has produced what we see today. In the church, family and society

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