Contentment Through Betrayal

Shellie Bible

“But my FRIENDS have dealt very unkindly with me and turned against me.

“It is sad when a friend proves like a brook in summer. (Job 6:15) The traveler being parched with heat, comes to the brook, hoping to refresh himself—but the brook is dried up—yet be content.” (Thomas Watson, The Art of Divine Contentment, p. 53).

“My companion stretched out his hand against his friends;
he violated his covenant.
His speech was smooth as butter,
yet war was in his heart;
his words were softer than oil,
yet they were drawn swords.

Cast your burden on the LORD,
and he will sustain you;
he will never permit
the righteous to be moved.”

~Psalm 55:20-22

Going through the betrayal of a friend, a close friend that turns on you, and conspires against you, is one of the most devastating and hardest things to go through in a Christians life. It usually catches us totally by surprise and our hearts and minds have trouble processing the “why” that is involved in such betrayal and still the Lord gives us wisdom in His revealed revelation, to give comfort to His children, to aid us as walk this road.

It is not discontent to come to Christ over and over in all of our troubles; He will never cast us out. He knows our troubles before we petition Him and He cares about our sorrows. 

Remember your Friend in the Lord; He will never leave you or forsake you and He will be with you from now into all of eternity. Our dearest and most beloved Friend we find in Jesus.

We are on this earth for such a short period of time and at times we will put too much stock into our earthly friends and their loyalty and love. And they will fail us. When we find ourselves betrayed by whom we had trusted, we have no earthly confidant that can heal the wounds of this hurt. Only Christ in these times of sorrow reminds us by His Word that He stands with us and our “hearts are quieted” in Him.

Betrayal, wounds inflicted by a former good friend, leaves a hurt that is akin to a death. And frankly, at that moment of deep betrayal, that is what it feels like. We begin the process of mourning for our friend. All of the time we surely had wasted in whom we thought was our friend.

“You have a friend in heaven who will never fail you; ‘there is a friend’ says Solomon ‘who sticks closer than a brother!’ (Proverbs 18:24) such a friend is God; he is very studious and inquisitive on our behalf; he has a debating with himself, a consulting and projecting how he may do us good; he is the best friend, who gives contentment in the midst of all discourtesies of friends. Consider,

He is a loving friend. ‘God is love;’ (1 John 4:16) hence he is said sometimes to engrave us on the ‘palm of his hand,’ (Is. 49:16) that we may never be out of his eye. He carries us in his bosom, (Is. 40:11) near to his heart. There is no interruption or stint in his love; but as the Nile river, it overflows all the banks. His love is as far beyond our thoughts—as it is above our deserts! O the infinite love of God, in giving the Son of his love to be made flesh, which was more than if all the angels had been made worms! God in giving Christ to us gave his very heart to us” (Thomas Watson Page 54 The Art of Divine Contentment).

This year of 2020 has been a trying one, to say the least. It has been wrought with betrayal, apostasy, violence, lies, sadness, and despair. There is a sense in which this world has been thrown into a mass delusion, to believe a lie. Even some of those who have named the name of Christ have fallen prey.

At certain times, I have seen folks that I would have never thought would do so speak contrary to God and His Word while still calling themselves Christians. They are double-minded men and women.

This year, I have experienced and witnessed plenty of heartbreak, sorrow, and hopelessness. And still God keeps me; still I still love and trust Christ. Not perfectly, but I do yearn to love Him perfectly. I fail, but He does not fail me, ever. He holds me and keep me, no matter the trial. Even when the times are dark and we are uncertain, even when we are not sure what will happen tomorrow. But our contentment should always, ultimately, be found in Christ. Trusting in God’s perfect Providence. Even through betrayal of earthly friends, we sorrow and weep and run to our most faithful, true and constant Savior and Friend. He is our comfort.

Friend, if you find that you have been betrayed by a close friend or family member, cry out to Him who can heal our broken hearts. Cry out to Him who knows our pain and sorrow. Our Savior knows our troubles in being betrayed. They “hated Him without a cause.”

Can we be content through betrayal of friend of family? Of course, we can. Our hope is not in the people of this world, our hope is in the Lord. Our friends our mortal as we are, they cannot save us or give us true comfort. 

Things to ponder

1. No one on this earth can heal a broken heart. Only Christ can give us the for which peace our souls long.

2. God is not taken by surprise by our trials and sorrows, but He does use them for His glory. These sorrows and pain drive us to Him. They cause us to trust Him more.

3. As God’s children we can go astray, we can look to the world for comfort, and every time all we find is futility and more discomfort. He knows this and He causes His children to come to Him, and He will sustain us. He is our strength.