The time that we currently live in is a time of much tumult, strife, and wickedness. We look outside the refuge that is our home and we can see pain, suffering, and destruction. We live in an age that tells us, as women, we are not being fulfilled unless we go outside our home to work.
The world says that to neglect our husband and children is of much benefit to ourselves, to self. It says that self-love is most important to our mental health than self-denial and that self-awareness and self-love are the way to happiness. We can look around us as see that people do not regard others at all.
We live in a post-Christian world, I am told. Even without explanation we can understand what this means. As women in service to Christ and at home loving our husband and children, we know what this means, maybe far better than most.
As Christian women we have long felt the sting of the gender dysphoria, I think far before it was realized by the rest of the world. We often think of “gender dysphoria” as being associated firstly with a boy pretending to be a girl or a girl pretending to be a boy, but actually the root started much earlier. I would argue that the root started in the Garden and was birthed fully in the modern feminist revolution.
Christian women have felt this most uncomfortable, odd sting of the gender dysphoria. The world tells us to embrace feminism and to deny our God-given femininity. This is most uncomfortable for a Christian woman that has laid down her life in joy to serve her family. We bristle at the thought of feminism and all it offers.
The Lord has told us that loving our husband and children and caring for our home is of value, that a virtuous woman is of great value and is more precious than rubies.
Then the world tells us that we should go out in the world to work. It says that we should drop our children off to strangers and work a full day, thus giving the world and our employer all of our energy and strength so that there there is nothing left at the end of the day for either husband or children. This results in the roles of the husband and wife merely being partner one and partner two, delegating what duties each will have. It is cold and sterile.
The lines were once more defined between the roles of women and men as outlined in Scripture, but then came the first gender dysphoria. Those lines of definition have become blurred to suggest that instead of serving and supporting our husbands in their work, we must now compete with them. The world says we must become like men; we must not listen to God’s Word and its archaic ideals. The world screams that Christianity will oppress you, but living as a man in a man’s world will empower you. It is utter foolishness.
Do you see the gender dysphoria here? Do you see that the Serpent has said “You will be like God”? When we first began to entertain the lie that women can be like men is when we chose to stand in direct opposition to God. God does not change; he is the sameyesterday, today and forever. But we well know that even much of evangelicalism has sought to and has adapted “new” teaching on gender roles. That is, when it comes to male and female, husband and wife gender dysphoria. But we can see how adapting God’s Word in this world is much easier than standing on it or fighting for it. But honestly, easy is not what we are called to as Christians.
We look at the world and we see it rightly as we filter it through Scripture. This is our guide; we have no other source. We have all the riches we will ever need containedtherein.
When we view the world in the light of the worldly philosophies that have been set before us, we only see hopelessness, despair, and fatalism.
The very root of our gender dysphoria is when we took what God has called good and perverted it. He has said “He made them Male and Female.”
This was given to us without shadow or ambiguity. Nature testifies to this truth. The world has seduced women of this age into believing they can achieve what is contrary to God’s creation. As we look around, we can see the devastation that this has wrought.
I am sure we are all aware that men can never become women and women can never become men. But here we are surrounded by a group of folks that falsely believe they can switch genders. It’s ridiculous. Imagine thousands of women who marched off to the factories during WW2 to do men’s work, leaving their little children in cars in the parking lot or sending them to school with their older siblings. I have read often how this broke many mothers’ hearts. Their calling was to be with their children. They felt unsettled. The world was not right. It was in the midst of war. Women had to feel betrayed. Their roles were ripped from them, and they were given no choice.
Feminism and its supporters were elated. Does this sound familiar? We should not be surprised that in attempting to reorder God’s order, what did we expect this would produce?
Surely, we can see from Scripture that we can only expect misery, destruction, and judgement. Indeed, we can witness this very thing every day around us. We see it in the divorce rate among evangelicals and the divorce rate in the world.
We see this in our inability to tell a woman from a man anymore. These two things are related. We know they are. We cannot say that feminism has some good in it or redeem anything from it that is of value anymore than we can say that transgenderism has some good to it or redeem anything of value from it. Both pervert God’s order in the same way.
As Christian women we want to strive to live in our God-given gender roles. What can we expect? We probably already know: the world will mock us; indeed, they already do. To affirm their dysphoria they must ridicule and shame those that seek to live in a godly manner. Feminists feel they must liberate us poor, abused, stupid homemakers. Feminists view our love and act of obedience to the Lord as an affront to their lifestyles, as some sort of judgement against them. While there is not judgement on our part, their very lifestyles that are contrary to God condemn them.
I remember many times talking to women at church or church events and they would ask me what I did. I told them I was a homemaker and I remember how one hundred percentof the responses were different variations of “Is that all you do?” “What do you do will all your time?” Did those words hurt? Yes, very much. But they were intended to do so. I was very young and did not understand. I was very naïve. Every time these women said this to me, they succeeded in minimizing my role in the home, gave me a twinge of shame, and made me feel a tad of temptation. This caused discontent in me and made me think that I should be seeking “more.” More of what, though? I did not even know. But they surely had it or they would not look down on me in such a manner. At least that is what I thought. But I was wrong. They were the ones that were discontent.
As I look back on those early homemaking years, they were lonely ones, even in the church. Yes, over thirty years ago, the church had already adapted to a “new” view on gender roles, even for Christian women. Sadly, it looked just like the gender roles evolving for the worldly women.
We have read Scripture; we know what it clearly means historically on biblical gender roles. We love being a wife and mother, to truly be a homemaker, only wanting good for our families and building on the foundation of Scripture. What can we do as godly women in a godless age? We can seek all of God’s will for us as found in His Word. We can stand fast and hold on to what God has said. Do not be tempted by the lies of the world. They are lies. The lies always come to light. They always manifest.
Sadly, ninety percent of the women that condemned and minimized my role in the home are all divorced and most remarried men they were working with outside of their home. This is in the church, not the world.
It may take years, but the lies are revealed. Our lives bear out the truth of Scripture, either for good or bad. Our lives will either be a testament for the glory of God or for the glory of ourselves. Feminism is as foreign and contrary to a Christian woman as Christianity is to a proud, practicing transgender. The two cannot be reconciled.
We cannot be men and we must not compete with our men. We must not challenge or attempt to adapt God’s order. All adaption and perversion of God’s Word has been to soothe man’s sin, to attempt to cover it. The world’s lie of self-love is from the Father of Lies. He has been lying from the beginning. This path is futility, indeed.
In this, we find the god of the world. He can neither save nor forgive. His lies, and if believed, he will condemn us. There is no redemption with him. Accepting sin and condoning it is not liberating, it is holding out our hands and begging for the chains of bondage. This bondage stifles, suffocates, and puts one in direct opposition to God. Who wants that? Those that seek an order outside of God’s order.
True freedom is found in Christ. Because we love Him, we want to obey Him. Did you not want to please your earthy father as you knew how he was to be treated? Wouldn’t we want to even more please our Heavenly Father as we know He is much greater than our earthy fathers? Obedience should not be a drudgery, but a joy. It should be done with thankfulness for the gift we have received from our Savior.
Things to ponder:
Do you feel minimized and shamed for being a homemaking, loving wife and mother?
Please know that your work is good work and will produce good fruit. God will bless it. The world ridicules and mocks because it hates those things that God loves. You are of much value in your obeying the Lord in doing what is right for you, your husband and your home. When the temptation comes to be discontent, and it will, go to the Word and read until your soul is quieted. Then offer up prayers and thanksgiving to God. He will grow you and bless you as you seek His will in your life, according to His Word.
Things to ponder:
1 John 2:15
Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
Therefore, just as sin came into the world through one man, and death through sin, and so death spread to all men because all sinned—
Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm. Stand therefore, having fastened on the belt of truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness, …
For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.
And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.
Then I saw an angel coming down from heaven, holding in his hand the key to the bottomless pit and a great chain. And he seized the dragon, that ancient serpent, who is the devil and Satan, and bound him for a thousand years, and threw him into the pit, and shut it and sealed it over him, so that he might not deceive the nations any longer, until the thousand years were ended. After that he must be released for a little while. Then I saw thrones, and seated on them were those to whom the authority to judge was committed. Also I saw the souls of those who had been beheaded for the testimony of Jesus and for the word of God, and those who had not worshiped the beast or its image and had not received its mark on their foreheads or their hands. They came to life and reigned with Christ for a thousand years. The rest of the dead did not come to life until the thousand years were ended. This is the first resurrection. …
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.
And the free gift is not like the result of that one man’s sin. For the judgment following one trespass brought condemnation, but the free gift following many trespasses brought justification.
“Then they will deliver you up to tribulation and put you to death, and you will be hated by all nations for my name’s sake. And then many will fall away and betray one another and hate one another. And many false prophets will arise and lead many astray. And because lawlessness will be increased, the love of many will grow cold. But the one who endures to the end will be saved.