Are we grumbling that our husbands don’t treat us the way we feel we need to be treated? Are we expecting too much from our husbands.? And are we busy micro managing our husbands behavior and giving our own Behaviors a big fat pass?
Can I ask you a question? What did you do for your husband today? What did you do for him that did not include manipulation? Or doing it to provoke a certain behavior in response? You see, so many times in our viewing our husbands actions toward us, we view it in the lens of this warped world. As Christian women we are to view our husbands through the lens of the gospel.
We all remember that exciting day we married these men of ours, how he treated us like we were princesses.He may have showered you in gifts and always opened the door of the store and the car for you. And then the years wore on and the babies came, or didn’t come. The days run together and the busyness of life takes over.
And what do we do ladies? We dwell, on what we think our lives should look like instead of holding tight and nurturing the sweet reality of real life. The reality we have. So we look at our husband and feel we are not being treated like we deserve to be treated.. We don’t default to what we can do to nurture but look to our husbands. This is the world that feeds our minds such foolishness.
That is the world that says “ He must do” “He must be””He must say” and “ if he does not do these things I will cause him to be miserable or worse”. Worldly immature self talk .And women of God are not to listen to the world but listen to Christ. Who says “ love your neighbor” “ love your husband” “put others before yourself” “love is patient , kind, is not rude or arrogant, it is not irritable or resentful “….. Awww… yes, we understand. We are to be Christlike in our marriages.
Did we get up this morning and think of what we could do for our husbands or resentful of what he hasn’t done for you? Who is your marriage to glorify? You or God? Ladies, I know as well as you that our attitudes have everything to do with how we interact with our husbands and children. You tell your husband you love him but do your works, your actions show him that love you speak of to him? Are you wasting precious days, months and years trying to make your husband conform to your image?
If you are, I implore you to repent and sit yourself down and immerse yourself in scripture asking God to make you more like His Son. Thank Him for your husband and ask for wisdom in serving your husband. A Christian home should not look like the world. It should be set apart. You as the wife, glorifying God in her marriage. The women of the world want a robot of a man that responds to their commands. A woman of God does not seek to be served but to serve. No manipulation or drama.
Feminists ,even those that call themselves Christians think , talk and act of the world.They are short sided and selfish. As we once were ,and can sometimes be to tempted to return, If we listen to those that hate God and that includes Satan.
Things to think about:
1. What did you do for your husband today, not seeking anything in return?
2. Who are you listening to, the broken worldly system or Christ?
3. Do you allow the busyness of life to neglect your husband?
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.
– 1 Corinthians 13:4-8