Read This if Your Husband Can’t do Anything Right

Cheryl Sin

Hollywood had done a great job of portraying husbands and fathers as the biggest bumbling idiots in the whole world. Feminism has tried to push men all of the way out of the picture and our lives. We don’t need them at all, the world tells us. Christian women, we should be different! We’re called to be different than the world.

Therefore go out from their midst, and be separate from them, says the Lord

I see this horrible thing happening in Christian marriage groups, pages, and accounts where women gather round the theoretical water cooler cackling like hens, and do things like share really private information about their homes and their husbands, seeking the guidance of perfect strangers concerning matters that should cause them to be under pastoral care. Anything from advice about the marriage bed, to how their husbands are too pathetic to be capable of washing dishes to their standards.

Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets

These mindsets have no place in the Christian wife. This comes from a worldview and ideology that hates men, and hates God’s created order. When I see this, there is a mocking tone, not the wife with the teaching of kindness on her tongue, not the woman whose husband’s heart can trust in her, not the wife that seeks her husbands good all the days of his life. If the world has influenced you to get to the degenerate point that you share private information about your husband with the world, you must repent.

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind

Our Christian marriages are a precious gift to the glory of God, we should be an example by way of our marriage for all the world to see how Christ loves His bride, and how His bride reciprocates that love. Satan is waiting with baited breath to destroy our marriages, and we willingly allow him to lead us astray by gossiping and slandering our husbands, publicly no less. This is shameful.

Why are you angry? And why has your countenance fallen? “If you do well, will not your countenance be lifted up? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door; and its desire is for you, but you must master it.”

If your husband is a bumbling idiot that says more about the necessary requirements to your sanctification, than the fact that he may put dishes away not to your liking, or shrink a sweater in the dryer once in a while. When we get to the point that we think of the kitchen or laundry room as ‘your little kingdom’ you’re playing into the curse. You may say with your lips that you submit to your husband, but your heart says ‘I rule over you’. The dishes are MINE, the kitchen is MINE, the vacuum is MINE.

For who regards you as superior? What do you have that you did not receive? And if you did receive it, why do you boast as if you had not received it?

Do you say that you submit with your lips but complain about every detail of your marriage? If you do, you are shaking your fist at God. You are in spiritual danger.

Or do you not know that the unrighteousness will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived.

If you are someone who does this repent, confess your sin, pray for the strength to love Christ and your husband as you ought. If you see this happening, have no part of it. Bad company corrupts good morals. If someone that you love does this, protect their soul by warning them of the danger that they are in. We should speak of our husbands no differently when they aren’t present than we would when they are present. As we love God and love our neighbor (husband) we should seek his highest good, and lift him up, not tear him down. We should not mock him or ridicule him. We should not exploit his weakest points, but seek the good in him and praise it, encourage it.