Imagine you are walking into worship service on the Lord’s day, and your pastor is trying to collect his thoughts and prepare to minister to the congregation. He didn’t get to eat breakfast because he forgot that he had to change the lightbulbs over the pulpit, so he left home early. As luck would have it though, some people came early that were having difficulties in their life and they really needed his counsel, another person has had a really hard morning and they’re very short and snappy with him. No one remembered to take out the trash last week after the fellowship dinner and the whole church smells to high heaven. Children are running around crying and disheveled, they haven’t had a bath yet. The phone rings and he gets some very bad news that has grieved him deeply – and now it is 5 minutes past time to minister to the congregation. Overwhelming?
Your pastor must have a time of peace and calm before he offers worship to the Lord. He needs time to prepare his own heart to deliver the Word of God to the congregation, and to shepherd the souls of the flock. To achieve this, even the smallest of churches have someone that helps the pastor to prepare the way for the worship of God. Our homes are no different.
As wives, mothers, and homemakers we have a multitude of duties and needs to meet that keep our schedules full. We can fall into bed at night seemingly not having had a moment to even collect our thoughts. The busyness of life makes it easy to lose sight of what our purpose is in all of this. We know that we care for our husbands and families, after all, we are always cooking, doing laundry, sweeping, mopping, and vacuuming, etc. All of these things that we do have a greater purpose. We need to prepare the way in our homes for our husbands to serve.
Our husbands are charged with a very high calling. As priests in the Kingdom of God they have the great honor and duty of inculcating godliness in their families, and cleansing them by the washing of water with the Word. We will arrive in heaven well, presented to our Lord without spot or wrinkle, holy and blameless, and much of our sanctification will have providentially come through the blessing of having a husband that serves the Lord.
Our primary job description as wives is ‘helper’, which is no insignificant task.
“Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” “
The Holy Spirit is also titled ‘Helper’,
“the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all that I said to you.”
So, how do we fulfill our duties as helpers by preparing the way for our husbands to serve God by ministering to us in the home? For each of us the specific details of that might look different. Our homes should be a place of peace and comfort. Our husbands are the first people that we should be hospitable to. We think of that word typically with guests in our home, but for our husbands the home should be a safe harbor from the storms of life. The world, the devil, and even his own flesh are against him. The home should be a place of love and comfort where he finds the primary people in his life that are for him.
We can examine what types of things we bring or add to the home that distract him from his duties in ministering to us. Can we turn off our phones and t.v.’s and have a period of time every day that our attention is focused and directed to being a family and presenting ourselves to be ministered to? Do we have neighbors, guests, friends, or family that we allow to come over and stay too long? Do we have times that we can say no to babysitting or some type of event that would be better served by spending time together? What things do we allow in our lives that interfere with our husbands responsibility to his family?
One thing we can do is try to anticipate what our husbands need before he needs it. These things might be small or large. When you know that it will take give you five extra minutes with him at the dinner table, take the trash out before he gets home. Take the small concerns of the day to day matters off of your husbands workload. In all of these things remember:
Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.
Just as we prepare ourselves and our hearts for worship, we can prepare ourselves and our homes to serve our husband. Our husbands have been given as heads over us, they are our protective covering against the world, the devil, and our flesh. They are the representatives of Christ over us, and the way that we serve our husbands should be identical to how we would serve Christ himself.