I recently saw an article online that was written by a man, a Christian man, and it gave a mans perspective on women wearing leggings. It was a good article and it had some very good points but I don’t think it went far enough. I think Christian men today are almost afraid to speak about modesty because they know that someone, at least online, will accuse them of being a pervert. Yes, by Christian women, they will be called this. Men ,even in the church walk very very softly on the subject of modesty, and why do you think that is? Well, it smells most certainly of “Christian feminism”. Now we know this “Christian Feminism” is an oxymoron, but I don’t know what else to call it.. And when it comes to modesty, men don’t touch the subject. Some venture in this area, and thank God for those men.
“Because after all, that’s legalism. Don’t tell me that my hemline is too short or my leggings are too tight. Men have the problem, it’s not my fault they have a lusting problem. How I dress is not your business, busybody. This is between me and God.”
Sound familiar? Sadly, this is more the norm than modest and chaste behavior and dress. Christian women have been convinced by the world that leggings are perfectly modest. That older Christian women are just frumpy and can’t be more openminded about dress.
Well firstly, most older women that are Christians do not seek to be openminded, but rather Christ minded. There is a chasm of difference between the two. Secondly, openmindedness seeks to accommodate worldly perspectives and the Christ minded woman seeks the mind of Christ in every situation.
Christian women wearing leggings alone (other than underneath a dress) are indecent. We know that when we stand in front of the mirror , we do understand what we see. We understand that leggings do not leave anything to the imagination and pretty much a tight covering for nakedness, showing every curve. Now folks want to say it is a “heart” condition and some Christian women wear them out of ignorance. And again, we are told it is not their fault, men lust while they are in them.
Let me be clear, even if not one man looked at you in your leggings and did not lust for you, you are still in sin by wearing them. The reason leggings are vulgar and indecent is not because they make men lust. No. It’s because you are walking around about as immodest as you can be-short of being naked. Gasp!!! That’s right. You are sinning by wearing leggings. I can’t determine the condition of your heart but your fruit (what folks see) is not of a chaste and modest Christian wife. Men are definitely wholly responsible for their own sin, and so are you.
Have I then become your enemy by telling you the truth?- Galatians 4:16
9likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, 10but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.- 1 Tim 2:9-10
To put on a pair of leggings uncovered is not displaying godly modesty, or adorning yourself in respectable apparel. You are doing the complete opposite. There is no argument that leggings are respectable apparel. We know where this world is headed with its flagrant disregard for God’s Word. We are not to go with them. We are not to be like the world. The world is continuing to undress, more clothing gone, more skin seen.
We are to be separate, a peculiar people. That doesn’t sound fun, does it? Peculiar is strange, and different. But that is what Christ has called us to be. We are to be in the World but not of the World. Even in our dress. Our dress should be a feminine display of modesty. That doesn’t mean frumpy at all. But it does mean concealing those parts that God has said are reserved for your husbands. And your husband only.
Dressing in a way that honors your husband, children and most importantly God. Not in a way that draws attention to yourself. This is what is pleasing to the Lord. This is our goal. To glorify our God in everything we do, say, and think.
Yes, God cares about our how we dress. Our clothing is an outer representation of inner heart. Our dressing for the glory of God should not be a chore, but an honor. How we dress is first a heart issue. If we are defending wearing an article of clothing that is lewd, we will want to examine our hearts, on what our motivation is in doing so.
I will tell you this, God convicted me of my immodest dress through the reading of His Word. I was ashamed of myself (and my shame was good) that my motivations in my dress were not respectable, but indeed very sinful. I repented and seek to glorify my Savior and honor my husband in the way I dress.
We must be in the Word, learning the mind of Christ, honoring Him in how we dress, and in all aspects of our lives.
Things to think about…
- Does my clothing bring attention to certain body parts?
- Am I modeling for my daughters a modest heart as well as in the way I dress?
- Am I teaching my daughters that they should try to get attention by men in the way I dress?
- Am I teaching my boys that they should seek a wife that dresses immodestly in front of other men.
“Modesty means to be free from undue familiarity, from indecency, from lewdness, pure in thought and conduct. Speaking of modest apparel, it means decent, seemly. The opposite of modesty is conceit, boldness, immodesty, brazenness, lewdness.”
— Elisabeth Elliot