I love Elizabeth Elliot. A wonderful straightforward woman of God said -Contentment is a command. My mother used to say “Behave yourselves.” Contentment is really taking yourself by the scruff of the neck and behaving yourself when you are feeling discontent about anything. It’s being still.”
Contentment is the heart of a woman content and at peace with her Savior, Husband, children and household. Resting in God’s Sovereignty in it all. She has resolved to trust her Savior and serve her family as unto the Lord. In contentment.
An excellent wife who can find?(Proverbs 31:10-12)
She is far more precious than jewels.
The heart of her husband trusts in her,
and he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life
When contentment is really hard ladies, is when we are looking away from our Savior at the allure of the world. The “what ifs” and the “if only” creep into our “quiet hearts” to disrupt our peace and move us to be discontent. Taking our peace and contentment in building up our home and causing an exact opposite affect and we begin (consciously or unconsciously) to tear down our homes. The longer we allow this discontentment to grow, the uglier it manifests itself. Discontentment has many faces, bitterness, contention, nagging, resentfulness and boredom. (Proverbs 9:14) A foolish son is ruin to his father, and a wife’s quarreling is a continual dripping of rain.(Philippians 4:11)
Discontentment has caused the end of many marriages and the destruction it has left in its path will be felt for generations, sadly. Discontentment is rooted in the worship of self. When you are discontent you are saying that someone or something external is not making you happy, and this will not be tolerated. If they would do what I wanted or I had that thing, I then would be content. (Pride)
(Proverbs 13:10) Only by pride cometh contention: but with the well advised is wisdom.
After discontentment enters our hearts it in some way manifests itself on our lips or in our actions, or both. We must stop when we first recognize it and seek to restore. But how do we begin to restore? We surely would seek to repent of the damage that it has been done, seeking to heal the wounds it has caused.
First, we need to remember and look around at all of our blessings the Lord has given to us, such a Great Savior redeeming us, dying on a Cross, while we were yet sinners. This will move us prayerfully to lovingly restore what has been broken during these times of discontent.
(1 Peter 2:24-25) He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed. For you were straying like sheep, but have now returned to the Shepherd and Overseer of your souls.
Things to think about:
- Do you recognize when discontentment is on your lips or in your actions?
- Do you try to restore or tear down?
- Do you see your Husband and children as priceless blessings?
Contentment is one of the most distinguishing traits of the godly person, because a godly person has his heart focused on God rather than on possessions or position or power.~ Jerry Bridges